A gifted kid’s sense of urgency is very, very low. Anyone that has a gifted kid knows that nothing gets done quickly. They are the kiddo who can’t find their other shoe. The kiddo who stands at the closet half dressed trying to decide what to wear. They are still at the breakfast table when everyone else is ready to go out the door. And as the urgency gets high around them, like in the mornings before school, their urgency gets lower and lower.
Why A Gifted Kid’s Sense of Urgency is Low
So, I am not gifted, but I do have a gifted kid that I have lived with and taken care of for 10 years. I think that my son’s sense of urgency is low because he is always thinking. His brain is always moving and coming up with more ideas. He does not see anything wrong with telling me his video game idea for thirty minutes. When he should be brushing his teeth.
There is so much going on his head, and so many ideas that he creating all at once. He doesn’t have time to be bothered with mundane things like finding his other shoe. He is creating and he is deciphering how things work. And he is debating what he will be when he grows up.
He is not lazy, which some people think. And he is not low energy, something people also think. In fact, he is very high energy and is always dancing and singing. He does this to help his ideas come to fruition. So that the energy has somewhere to go and clear out, so he can think amazing thoughts.
How You Should React to It
All I can say, is you have to react with patience. It never helps to get frustrated. It definitely doesn’t help to yell. In fact, as you get more frustrated, I think gifted kids move slower. I always keep my words upbeat and patient. Even the tone of my voice needs to be relaxed. Because, along with a gifted kid usually comes a sensitive kid. My son asks me all the time why the tone of my voice is mad. He can hear the frustration, even if I don’t say it.
Also, my son is very dramatic. So if I say one impatient request. I usually get a temper tantrum or a lot of ranting. Which does not make the morning go smoother. It all depends on how you react. Remain calm and your gifted kiddo will remain calm.
Some Things to Make it Easier
I already did a post on how to get your kiddos going in the morning. And this post was written because of my younger son and the processes we have had to implement. You need to have everything ready to go the night before. Have clothes laid out, instrument by the door. Because you know your gifted kiddo will not remember things like their instrument.
Also, find out what they need to get done when they get home from school. This will help you make a plan of how the evening is going to go. And what needs to get done. Then it doesn’t have to get urgent (which we have already talked about, gifted kids do not do well with).
There is more to come about gifted kids because us moms need to stick together and learn together.