So it seems wherever you look on social media everyone is talking about what perfect angels their kids are. And how these moms love spending time with their kids. All the time! It is hared to get away from, and it is kind of disheartening for us normal moms. If you have some issues with comparing like me, go read this post! Because, spoiler alert, sometimes my kids annoy me.
Now, I would not say all the time they annoy me. And I wouldn’t even say half the time they do. But there are sometimes that I just get so annoyed. When they are fighting with each other. Or being disrespectful. Or I have told them twenty times to put on their shoes and they are still laying on the couch!
Who is with me?
Now, I know there are mamas out there that say their child is delightful and precious all the time. And they will spend time with him/her all day everyday and enjoy every single second. That is not me. I am thinking there are other moms also like me. That love our children with our whole heart and soul. But sometimes they are just so annoying!
If you are in the first group of moms who thinks their little angel never does anything wrong. Then this post is not for you, and you should probably quit reading. But if you are in the second group where sometimes your kids annoy you, just like me. Then you need to keep reading.
Take some alone time
If those kiddos are just sending you over the edge. Sometimes they are just being kids and you are the one who is a little burned out (not all the time, though, sometimes the kids are just pushing your buttons!). But if you notice you are just getting annoyed by everything, then you need to take some alone time.
This can look like many different activities. Sometimes it is a full on spa day with getting your nails done and getting a massage. And sometimes it is shutting yourself in your room for a little bit, until you are feeling a little more in control of your emotions.
But if you are going to say something to the kiddos that you will regret, than it is time for a breather. My kids are older so I am okay to leave them alone for a bit while a relax. But obviously if your kids are a little bit younger, this is a time to maybe put on a tv show or let them have the ipad for a bit. Just so you can get a second to yourself.
And, like I said, my kids are older so sometimes they get some alone time also. If the are fighting with each other, then I will send them both to their own rooms. Just so everyone gets a little rest.
If possible, every so often, find someone to watch your kids so you can go and get some of that self-care that recharges your batteries. And makes you a better mom.
Find the Good in Those Kiddos
Yes, sometimes my kids annoy me so much. But there is also so many good things about them. My older one is so responsible. And works hard to get good grades and do well at all his activities. My younger son is hilarious and is probably the smartest person I know.
When these boys are fighting with each other or just not doing what I tell them. I try to remember these good and wonderful things about each of my boys. And I could go on and on about all the great things about them. I am their mom, after all.
But I just have to remember all these great things about them when they are annoying me. If you want to, write them down. Then you can take them out when you are just not seeing anything good about the kids (here is a great journal where you can write all the good things about your kiddos!)
I have done this, and it is so helpful to just have this list on hand. Just in case your brain is not remembering the good things when the kids are wrestling on the floor in the living room during dinner time.
Get up Before the Kids
I am not going to lie. This one is super duper hard for me. Especially since my younger son gets up at 7AM every single day, rain or shine, school day or weekend. So this means, that if I am going to get up before him, it will have to be about 6:30AM. Or, keep reading and I do have another option for you.
But first, if you get up before the kids, you have a little bit of quiet time so you can start your day on the right foot. You can do journaling if that is your thing or reading the bible if that is what you enjoy. But just something in the morning before your hectic day starts. Just staring out the window works also. As long as it is quiet and no one is yelling or fighting yet.
So my younger son gets up very early. There are a couple of options if you have a kiddo like this. You can tell them they need to play quietly in their room until it is a set time. Then they can come out an start their day. This usually works pretty well with early elementary kids because you will teach them to read a clock. They usually like being more independent and regulating themselves to watch the time for when they can come out of their room.
Now that my son is older, he is allowed to come out of his room at 7. But he needs to find something to do quietly. This is usually playing a video game, which is fine with me if he does it quietly. He knows that this is not the time for talking to me. So we both get our quiet time done in the morning, even though he is up. He understands that we are quiet for a bit before we really start our day.
I’m sure most of you are like me, and my kids do annoy me sometimes. But most of the time they are my pride and joy.