You hear this term thrown around a lot now days. Give yourself grace. But what does that mean. Especially for us moms. Let me tell you what happened today, I forgot to pick up my nephew from daycare. I always pick him up before his nap, and he is always waiting for me while his friends go down for nap. But today, I just forgot him. I have it in my phone, I had talked to my sister the night before. So there was no reason I should have forgotten…but I did.
I felt awful! I mean, this wasn’t my own child, this was my nephew. And him and my sister were depending on me. I went and got him as soon as I remembered. He was laying down like he was going to nap, but popped right up because he was waiting for me. He wasn’t upset, he knew I would be there eventually. The toddler gave me grace with no problem. I also called his mom (my sister) and of course she gave me grace also.
What Does This Mean for You and Me
My sister and my nephew gave me grace, and I need to give myself grace. I am not going to be perfect. I sometimes forget things with my boys. I have left them at school before, I have missed their dentist appointments. And I have forgotten to sign something. My boys ALWAYS give me grace. Even though I feel awful.
Please take the lead of the people around you and give yourself grace. You will not be the perfect mom, or the perfect aunt. But that is okay. As I tell my boys, as long as you do your best, that is all we can ask for. We need to lower our expectations. Most moms are not trying to be a bad mom. We are all just trying to do our best.
No Mom Judging and Comparing
I did a post on why we shouldn’t mom judge, but it goes with this post also. We need to not judge other moms because we don’t know their story. We don’t know what they have been through that day. I have never ever forgot my nephew, but I did today, and if another mom found that one thing out about me today, they might think I wasn’t a good mom or aunt.
And you can’t compare yourself with other moms. Because, again, you don’t know their story. Maybe on the outside they look perfect. But at home they are a mess. You and I don’t know. But what I do know is we all deserve grace. So give yourself grace.
Vanessa is a Doctor of Pharmacy who champions natural health. She lives with her husband of 18 years as well as her 12 & 15 year old sons. She aspires to encourage moms on their journey to family wellness through holistic health and essential oils.
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